Sunday, July 22, 2012
Three In One
The following are questions from 3 separate spanking questionnaires......I took the questions from all three and have woven them into one. My answers should help to give you a glimpse into my naughty little mind and the spanking passion at the heart of my disciplinary relationship with Professor. Enjoy!!! :)
Would you rather be spanked in public or private?
Private......though being spanked in public does add the additional embarrassment factor and could definitely be an intense experience.
Would you rather fantasize about spanking or actually be spanked?
Could this even be a real question? Lol. Obviously, actually being spanked is far better than only fantasizing about it.
Would you rather be spanked for humiliation or for your spanker’s pleasure?
Very easy answer......for His pleasure (and if I am a good girl, mine as well)
Would you rather be spanked by hand or hairbrush?
His hand is undoubtedly my favorite 'implement'. I love the skin to skin contact and the closeness of the over the knee position used for a hand spanking. I love when he alternates between slow smacks, giving me time to really feel each swat & administering hard stinging swats in rapid succession causing me to whimper. Professor has very strong hands....I've actually been spanked with small paddles that don't sting as much as His hand does.
Would you rather be spanked by belt or cane?
Hmm.....they are both good for different scenes but I prefer His belt for most all of our sessions because it is an always available, domestic implement. I have a love hate relationship with Professor's belt and that makes it extremely effective. However, if I am being spanked in his office at school, then I'd prefer the cane simply because it is an academic implement.
Would you rather be spanked by ping pong paddle or riding crop?
Um, I'm not certain I have a preference here........I will say I prefer to be spanked with whichever implement(s) that Professor prefers to punish me with.
Would you rather be restrained or unrestrained during a spanking?
Unrestrained.......I am a control freak.
Would you rather have just a red bottom or welts/bruises?
I have finicky skin.....some times I will mark extremely easily, other times I could be spanked for hours and hardly be red. As for which I 'prefer', I have no preference in how I mark. I don't have any problem with being bruised or welted from a spanking. When I am spanked, I'm not concerned with how I will mark as much as I am that I'll feel it for a couple days....my spanker is skilled at insuring I am sore for at least a couple of days.
Would you rather be spanked for the naughty things you have done or just because you enjoy the experience?
Both, honestly. I have plenty of real life infractions that I am punished for but if I am able to behave myself for extended periods of time then I still want and need to be spanked......so if I am not being punished, then Professor can spank me for any number of reasons like a good role play, stress, maintenance, or just because we both enjoy it.
Would you rather be spanked with panties up or panties down?
I am always spanked on my bare bottom
What does your spanker call you during a spanking?
He usually calls me by my first & middle name (Natalie Lynn) or 'young lady.'
What do you call your spanker during a spanking?
'Sir'......always. I don't even call him 'Professor' during a session.....only 'Sir.'
Would you rather be spanked OTK, lying on a bed or bent over a table/chair/desk?
That depends on the implement being used......and Professor uses each of those positions and more.
What is your favorite position to be in during pre-spanking or mid-spanking lectures?
The majority of the time Professor will insist I stand in front of him, hands at my side, maintaining eye contact with him as he sits at a desk and lectures me while going over the offenses on my punishment list. Occasionally he will lecture while I am in the corner. My favorite?.....I love to kneel in front of him, with my hands either clasped together resting on my thighs or interlocked behind me, looking up at him as he speaks to me. There is just something about kneeling quietly in front of Him that makes me feel incredibly submissive. He has actually only insisted I kneel before Him a couple of times.....but I love it regardless of how often I am told to do it.....it just completely overwhelms and quiets my mind with amazingly intense feelings of submission.
Would you rather your spanker have physical contact with you?
Doesn't he kind of HAVE to in order to spank me? Lol. Of course I prefer he have physical contact with me.
Does your spanker direct you to the corner or drag you by your arm, ear, etc?
Professor typically just directs me to where he wants me. He has not ever had to drag me (though that might be fun) because he knows I will obey him.
Does your spanker pull your hair or lift your chin to make you look at him/her?
He has lifted my chin a few times but most often he simply tells me to look at him and I comply. He has tilted my head to the side by tugging on my hair to get me to raise my face from a pillow & turn to look at him.
Would you prefer to be spanked in the woods with a tree branch, bent over the hood of a car, or in a school with a ruler bent over the desk of your teacher/principal?
The answer to this question should be a dead giveaway....my disciplinarian is a professor......and being spanked in his office is really kind of hot :)
Would you rather be a brat to your spanker to deserve a spanking or simply ask your spanker for a spanking because you know you needed it?
I typically am spanked for real life offenses.....but if those were my two options then I'd rather ask Professor to spank me than be a brat to him on purpose. Bratting is not part of our dynamic.....I know better.
Have you received a spanking in the last week?
Nope, my last spanking was 7/11......so 11 days ago now.
Has your spanker ever done something that literally gave you chills or made you shake?
When I am in the corner and he sneaks up quietly behind me and whispers something into my ear like, 'you're going to be a very sorry little girl by the time I'm done with you'.....works every single time.
Would you rather be spanked for the physical sensation or the emotional release?
A nice even combination of the two
Would you rather tell your best friends that you enjoy to be spanked or keep it a secret?
Most of my true friends know that I am a spanko girl. I used to worry about hiding it from others because I didn't want people to think I was weird......but now, I don't really worry much about what others think...lol. And keeping it a secret was a bit difficult when I have an arsenal of implements throughout my home....lol.
Would you rather spanking be a lifestyle choice or just something you dabble in?
I don't think I fit into either of those categories. I certainly don't dabble in it as a one time thing but I'm not what most people consider a 'lifestyler' because it doesn't define my life. I think I am just a typical girl who leads a normal life and happens to have a passion for spanking.
Would you rather your lover be a vanilla or a spankoholic too?
Ideally a romantic partner would share the passion....I had that in my marriage and loved the trust,closeness & intimacy it inspired. I don't date now because I don't have the time with work,school,parenting,etc and I'm not certain I have the emotional stamina to navigate a romance right now so I don't have to worry about whether or not my significant other is into spanking at the moment. Again, I did enjoy sharing it in my marriage but right now I am really loving the relationship dynamic that I have with Professor being my Disciplinarian without the complexity of a romance added to complicate things.
Would you rather be spanked by a stranger or by someone who knew you well?
I am only spanked by Professor; and he knows me pretty well. I would not ever allow a stranger to spank me because I think trust and respect are essential elements to a spanking relationship. The *only* exception to this for me is that Professor & I have discussed his idea of taking me to another disciplinarian of His choosing for a serious punishment spanking session that He would accompany me to in order to guarantee my safety.....that is a situation where I would allow a stranger to spank me: Professor's choice, spanking me at His request with Him present to protect me.
Would you rather be spanked by a despotic, mean person or by a compassionate, benevolent person?
Lol.....I am confident that I have a perfect combination of caring & rational mixed with sadistic & demanding in Professor. I think you need a bit of both in order to make up an effective spanker.
Would you rather be talked to while you are spanked or no talking at all?
If it were my choice, which it isn't, I would prefer no talking at all during the spanking...lol...because it is difficult to pay attention to a lecture or answer questions when I am focused on the punishing swats landing on my bare bottom. Professor typically gives me the majority of my scolding before I am spanked, but he does emphasize key points or ask questions of relevance while he is administering my punishment.
Would you rather get one swat at a time with pauses to let the sting set in or a continuous tanning to build up the fire?
I prefer a nice even mix of both. At times Professor will spank slowly so I can feel and appreciate each and every swat......at other times he will rapidly spank my bottom causing me to struggle to remain still. Professor typically switches back and forth between slow, deliberate spanking and the quick, harsh spanking several times throughout a spanking session. Both methods have their 'perks'.
Would you rather be forced into a spanking or willingly submit into a spanking?
I have always submitted to a spanking because I know I deserve it. That being said, one of my biggest fantasies is to be 'forced' into an impromptu spanking. I think I would like to struggle, argue & put up a fight to avoid a punishment spanking just to be overcome physically and spanked against my will.
Would you rather have a safe word or be pushed beyond your preconceived limits?
My own personal preference (this is NOT meant as advice for anyone else) is to not ever even have a safe word. I would trust Professor with my life. I have not ever even established a safe word with Professor because I do not need it. I think even having a safe word would put control into my hands knowing that I could choose to stop the spanking. One of the biggest elements of this relationship for me is complete power exchange....I do not want control. Especially when I am being punished, I should not have the power to stop or slow a punishment. I make one decision, that is to trust Professor and submit to his authority. I know that he would never hurt me & I know that he will always give me exactly what I need/deserve. As far as limits are concerned.....I believe with a partner you trust, that all limits are meant to be explored and challenged.
Would you rather your spanker know your spanking history or is ignorance bliss?
Professor and I shared a lot of our spanking history with one another prior to meeting and I think that is important.....information is power.
Would you rather be spanked by multiple people at one time or just by one person at a time?
Would you rather be spanked once a day or once every few months?
Hmmm.........every day would be great but is not practical or possible.......lol. But only once every few months is too infrequent. Probably once or twice a month is ideal.
Would you rather your spanker be deeply in tune or be totally unaffected to your experiences as a spankee?
I very much depend on and love how intuitive Professor is. Even when I have been unable to tell him what I need, he seems to know. His being in tune with me has only strengthened the connection & level of trust I have with him. His intuition astounded me from my first session with Him and has made me feel incredibly comfortable placing myself under his firm control because I know that Professor knows what he is doing and will take damn good care of me as his little girl.
Would you rather a closer physical relationship or a closer emotional relationship with your spanker?
Obviously physical interaction is a large part of any spanking relationship........but I think the emotional relationship is vital and what makes the physicality possible.
Is it most effective when your spanker yells at you or when your spanker is quiet?
Professor does not yell at me...he never has. When he is scolding me, he will occasionally raise his voice a little bit just to emphasize a point....I jump, literally, every time he does it. He is very quiet and intense, which is insanely effective.
Has your spanker ever ignored you?
No, Professor has not ever ignored me. He doesn't play guessing games; if he is angry at me, he has no problem letting me know that.
Does your spanker give you rules to follow?
Yes, I do have a handful of rules that Professor insists I follow, or face the consequences. He has given me very few rules; he is not a micro-manager.
Would you rather your spanker ice your bottom down after a spanking or send you to the corner to display his/her accomplishment?
Lol! I actually sort of like being sent to the corner after I have been spanked and feeling Professor's eyes on me as he admires his handiwork. I said the 'lol' at the idea of icing a bottom down after a spanking.....if I were dumb enough to ask Professor to ice my bottom after I've been punished, I can guarantee that he wouldn't do it.....he might however choose to put ice on my bottom BEFORE spanking me, which would really suck because there is nothing more painful than being paddled or strapped on an ice cold bare bottom.
Would you rather your spanker be the person you wish to live the rest of your life with (i.e. marriage) or the person you can call on when your tushy tickles?
My spanker is married; we have a non-sexual discipline based relationship......but he is definitely my 'phone-a-friend' when I am spank-horny. :)
Would you rather your spanker have total control over you when you are being spanked or do you still want to have some control while you are being spanked?
Professor has to have complete control when I am being punished.....that's the dynamic we have. One of the most important elements of our relationship to me is the complete power exchange. I am naturally a control-freak but in my relationship with Professor, I do not want to have any control; I enjoy submitting to and pleasing Him. He makes all decisions when we are together, even simple & seemingly unimportant things such as using the bathroom or getting a drink of water....I have to ask his permission before I do or say anything when we are together, and I really love that.
Would you rather be humiliated or respected during a spanking?
I suppose a certain amount of embarrassment is a part of any truly good discipline spanking......however, I would not say that my disciplinarian has ever 'humiliated' me, rather he humbles me.
Would you rather spanking become part of a bigger BDSM alternative lifestyle or spanking just be spanking for spanking sake?
I love spanking just for spankings sake
Would you rather your spanking be gentle and gradual or painful and abrupt?
I am not much of a fan of 'gentle' spankings. Love pats and cutesy soft swats are *not* a spanking. If I am being spanked then I expect to feel it.
Would you rather be defiant or fearful going into a spanking?
I have not ever really been fearful.....but I often am nervous about having to face Professor when I know I've misbehaved. I might consider defiance in a role play but when I am truly in trouble and being punished, I have not ever been openly defiant toward Professor....I know better.
Would you rather be spanked exclusively on your bottom or would other places be interesting too?
My sit spots and upper thighs are always fair game as well as my bottom. Oh and I have had my hands strapped once like 6 years ago for flipping my husband off...lol.
Has your spanker ever washed your mouth out with soap?
Unfortunately, yes. Professor has only washed my mouth out once......just 11 days ago at our last session for my continuous cursing. I don't ever want to give him a reason to do it again.....it sucked.
Has your spanker ever grounded you?
Yes, Professor has grounded me or restricted me from certain things.....like no cell phone use at all in the car for 4 days because I kept texting while driving....or....when he insisted that I drive only the speed limit for a week because I got a speeding ticket.
Has your spanker ever slapped you for back talking him/her?
No, Professor has not ever slapped me for talking back......not yet anyway. I am typically smart enough to *not* argue or talk back to him when I am in trouble because I know better. Actually there was one time that I really, truly thought he was going to slap me.....he was lecturing me & getting ready to strap me with the rubber loop strap that I *hate* and I thought I whispered but apparently I was louder than I intended to be when I said "bitch" in reference to Lauren telling him to use that strap on me. That was the first time he had ever raised his voice at me, he was shocked that I'd said it and so was I....he loudly barked 'What did you just say?' and I just sort of froze, I couldn't speak. The look on his face....OMG, if looks could kill. That's probably the only time I have really thought he might slap me....I honestly think I deserved to be slapped for that nonsense....but Professor didn't slap me, he just whipped me with that damn rubber loop strap....HARD....I'd of rather been slapped....lol.
Would you rather that spanking be a surprise or something that you have to look forward to?
Professor and I live a decent distance from one another right now so I always get to 'look forward' to my spankings.....they are planned about a week in advance so I have several days to be nervous in anticipation. But like I said in an earlier question at the top of this post, one of my biggest fantasies is a surprise or impromptu spanking that I struggle & argue to avoid just to have Him physically over-power me and spank me anyway.
Would you rather that spanking be a part of role playing kinkiness or a response to events that have happened in reality?
I enjoy both scenarios. A great role play spanking can leave me reeling. But if I had to choose, I do prefer being spanked for real life naughtiness.
Would you rather be spanked by a male or female?
A man....but not any man....I am only spanked by *one* man....the best....Professor :)
Would you rather be cuddled or scolded after a spanking?
Even in my marriage, I am not big on cuddling after a spanking. I mean I do enjoy some amount of physical contact but I prefer to be pulled into a hug rather than 'cuddled.' Typically immediately after a spanking, when I am still lying across Professor's lap, he will trace his fingertips across my aching skin....which usually makes the sting and soreness even more intense under his light touching. Occasionally he will massage a lotion into my properly punished cheeks. Then once I am up from his knee, he opens his arms and I melt into a hug and then we sit and talk....usually the scolding is done by this point, but he will ask me to tell him what I learned, how I'll change it, etc.